I see a man sitting in the dead of the night, staring hard…
Do I really know the man behind the curtain?
Have you ever really sat down to think about your partner, who he really is, what goes on in that tiny mind of his. What does he do when you aren’t looking? Is he really generally stable?
Several of us have said I trust my partner, we communicate very well…that is very good, trust is one of the building blocks of a good relationship and communication is essential be it courtship or marriage, but have an open mind, we are all human; in the process of doing both and giving space know that the devil exist in…
Being a full-time mom, wife, student, and teacher is exhausting and every three or four weeks….I BREAK! There is nothing like courting yourself and enjoying some peace and quite without life’s demands. Every woman who likes to be pampered can enjoy an all day event at the nail salon (even if it’s not on purpose). Today, getting my nails done on a Saturday was a four hour experience; surviving on water and peppermints! Saturday, I was scheduled an appointment at 12pm; I was not done until after 3pm, eight-months pregnant and starving, but it is always worth the time spent for the right salon. I felt like a million bucks leaving the salon, my eyebrows, nails, and toes were snatched to the Gods.
It is such a disappointment to have your nails ruined or chipped only weeks after getting them done or having your eyebrows jacked-up. Nails Salons have so much power when it comes to the confidence of women; once a woman feels confident in her nails and hair, she is ready to conquer the aggravating co-worker, the 100 “lovely” students, and her household.
Once I relocated, I made it my business to find someone who I could trust to do my nails, waxes, and lashes correctly and not just take my money and do a sub-pair job. Getting the “works” is often a $100 dollar ticket. Making sure that I love what I spend my money on and that I am on a first-name basis is my greatest obsession when seeking a Nail Salon. In recent years, I’ve had nail techs who were more interested in up selling me then worrying about the health of my nails. I hate to feel cheated out of my money, once I find a potential shop to visit, I immediately check for welcoming, licenses, sanitation techniques, and product prices. It is my money and my time and I want to feel important when I leave. Here are a few tips when choosing the right nail salon to avoid disaster:
Do research. Check out reviews online and their website.
Pay attention to cleanliness and how they treat their tools.
Be aware of products they use on you. Soft Gel? Shellac? Acrylic? Find out what products work for you.
When school starts up, life can get a little crazy. The sooner you and your family adjust, the better off you all will be. Here are some short and quick tips on how to get organized and help prepare for another school year.
Set your kids’ sleep schedule back to “School Time” one/two weeks before the first day of school and enforce it.
Let your kids choose a planner or scheduling tool that they are excited about.
Create a family calendar that tracks everyone’s activities and commitments.
Refresh your rules about media time for the school year. What’s allowed and when?
Establish a set “Family Time,” whether it’s during dinner or before bed.
Determine how long it takes them to do assignments to help with time management.
Use a timer to get your kids used to focusing for specific periods of time,
Give your kids a short break after each assignment they finish.
Set a regular alarm/time each day that signals the start of homework time.
Discuss what your kids can expect on the first day so that they feel more prepared.
Go to open-house and get to know your kids teacher and school.
Establish a specific “homework area” with no distractions (TVs).
Have your kids set realistic goals for the new year, such as reading 30 books.
Model good behavior by doing your own work/projects while your kids do homework.
Have your kids pack their book bag (homework) and lay out their school clothes for the next school day.
Set your clock forward 10 minutes. This is a good way to be on time.
Schedule 30 minutes for “you time” each day.
Create a rewards system for when they meet goals and help around the house.
Can’t wait to share “Solo” novel and audio with my students this year!! If you are a lover of music, you will love this Young Adult reader!! Don’t worry, I will definitely keep you posted on our progress! Stay Tuned!
The Your Voice section of The Poet’s List showcases articles and blog posts written by poets. These pieces may or not be about poetry. Most often, they are on topics with which the poet finds passion. You can find more of these posts, here: Your Voice.
When Kwame Alexander talks, you can sense something irrepressible just under the surface—laughter, maybe, or swagger—dying to burst forth. It’s the same vibe the 12-year-old protagonist of his Newbery Medal-winning 2014 novel-in-verse, The Crossover, exudes on the basketball court. Alexander, 48, was a baller himself: “I was No. 1 on the tennis team,” he says. “I beat everybody.”
Raised in New York City and later Virginia by literary types—publisher dad, English teacher mom—Alexander has produced two dozen titles to date, from a collection of Tupac essays he edited to poetry volumes and children’s picture books. Solo, out August 1, is a…
As a reading teacher, I understand the value of teaching a male student to be as well rounded as possible. Many male students may fell as if their masculinity is being attacked, unless the book is drama-filled or an actual autobiography of some sort. Teaching male students diversity and finding a relatable topic for real-life situations is just one of the ways that I tackle this stigma.
When I was a precocious preteen, I heard that boys struggled to enjoy reading. I found that hard to believe, because I found it hard to believe any actual human could dislike reading, but I accepted it. Boys seemed rowdy and sporty and unable to sit still, so it was conceivable they weren’t the best readers.
Around the time I learned this information about the sad state of boys’ reading abilities, I ran into a poster at the library encouraging boys to read. It listed around fifty titles to tempt the reluctant male reader. I stood there for a few minutes to read the whole list.
I didn’t find a single “girl book” on the list. Girl books, you ask? You know — girl books. The books with a girl as a main character. Ick. (Well, maybe I misspoke — The Hunger Games might have been listed, but precocious preteen…
Positive reading experiences encourage more reading. The more children read, the better they will read.
Early readers can build their confidence and abilities by rereading books they are very familiar with. Repetition is good!
Reading and talking about nonfiction — not just storybooks — helps younger children learn information and skills that they need for academic success in upper grades.
How to help:
Read and reread your child’s favorite books — electronic or print — and, eventually, she will be able to read them to you.
Listen to your child read and tell you stories. Then, have a conversation about them.
Play board games and card games and talk about what’s happening as you play.
Limit and monitor your child’s computer and television time. During screen time, help choose programs that will both interest her and build knowledge. Ask what she has learned, and find books on these subjects at the local library.
Expose your child to new things and information by taking her to a museum, the zoo, or a different neighborhood. Encourage her to talk about what she sees.
At 5 years, can say 3000–5000 words, speaks using complex and compound sentences, and starts to match letters with sounds.
At 6 years, starts to read words on the page and make predictions while reading, using knowledge, pictures, and text.
At 7 years, starts to read words automatically, and expands knowledge by listening to and reading books
YOUR UPPER ELEMENTARY STUDENT (GRADES 3–5)
The words we use in conversation are different from the words we see in books. Students need to understand this academic language in order to succeed in school.
Starting in grade 4, children are expected to “read to learn” — to gain information from books independently.
Children need encouragement, praise, and patience, especially when they are struggling in school.
How to help:
Hang maps or other word-filled posters. Hang her schoolwork to show how proud you are and emphasize the importance of working hard at school.
Challenge your child by reading aloud books or stories from the newspaper — electronic or print — that she cannot read on her own and by introducing her to new ideas and topics.
Keep what your child enjoys reading around the house. Many children enjoy kid-friendly magazines that you can find at your library or order by mail.
Talk to your child’s teacher. Learn about classroom work and how you can help at home.
At 8 years, reads chapter books and is now learning an estimated 3,000 words per year
At 9 years, can read aloud and silently, and understand what is read
At 10 years, begins to identify the themes in a text
The meaning of friendship is always up for debate; what it “is” and what it is “not” is a gray area as we age. With the premier of the movie “Girls Trip”, the topic of “sisterhood” is on the rise! Women everywhere rounded up, got fly, and headed to the theaters via Instagram and Facebook.
How many friends is too many? What friend is your favorite?
I have been able to keep friendly acquaintances with childhood and high school friends over the years, but realistically, can we expect to keep the same friends FOREVER-EVER?
Once I graduated from high school, I attended college and met new friends. I soon realized that me and my high school friends were drifting apart and in some respects…they didn’t know me at all.
Today, I’ve known my college friends for over ten years and met some great friends along the way…however, I have begun to wonder if friendships; like everything else, change and evolve just as we do. How do we know when to save these friendships and when do we know when to let them go? After watching the movie “Girls Trip”, I immediately began to ask myself, “how do we keep friendships alive, and is drifting apart inevitable?” Young adulthood brought the friendships that I value most because we were at our most vulnerable times and became a strong-tower for one another. In viewing “Girls Trip”, there were two things that were apparent to me as vital assets of friendship, willingness to communicate effectively and dedication despite confrontation. Everyone is “GROWN” until it is time to effectively communicate, apologize, and try. In this age, it is much easier to run or delete others.
There is no formal structure for friendship and you may go months without speaking to one another. However, I do know that friendships help to support our happiness and will often change as we age and grow. In adulthood, we begin to prioritize differently and this can cause a drift. Often, friends with little responsibility have higher expectations of their friends and friends with more responsibility tend to prioritize friendship differently. As I watch my circle of friends become smaller, I realize that this is natural. Not every friendship is repairable nor healthy for our growth. As we evolve and mature, we will ultimately outgrow some friendships and situations. I decided to list a few of the characteristics that help to keep my friendships alive below:
HUMOR- Who wants a stressful, emotionally unbalanced, hormonal, or reckless friendship? Good times are what I live for not a catastrophe every time we hang out.
POSITIVE- Gossiping and negativity 24/7 is problematic.
EQUAL EFFORT- I got your back, you got mine! RIDE OR DIE! (Don’t kill me tho’)
EQUAL COMMUNICATION- Don’t just call me when you want my relationship advice, you’re being nosey, or when you’re in distress/trouble.
JUDGE YE’ NOT
RESPECT-Agree to Disagree. Say it to my face. Respect my personal boundaries.