…Now You’re Talking My Language

Looking back, I remember the days of dating and courting each other, lunches just because, dates regularly.  Bonding was such an important aspect of the reason we became so close so soon.  Immediately, we felt as if the loads of our day could be unloaded unto each other.  Two daughters later, our courtship is mostly conversation about administrating our marriage and the kids.  As much as I need “me time” away from the girls, I also need “adult time” with my spouse.  No phones, no children, just direct conversation about things that do not pertain to our responsibilities.  Finding new ways to provide the support for a strong foundation by rediscovering my love for my partner everyday.


The goal of having meaningful conversation is to talk about things that keep you current and deepen your understanding of who your spouse is.  What are his or her likes, dislikes, preferences, feelings, stressors, friends and life dreams?

Drop your phones for 10 minutes and:

-put the kids to bed early

-remember to listen like it was your first date and never stop dating one another

-play adult games

-cook together

-laugh more


-Turn off the TV during dinner time

-Take a walk together and try conversation starters (link below)

Wifey Wednesday: 50 Conversation Starters For Couples




Young Readers Become Strong Adult Readers & Critical Thinkers.


Positive reading experiences encourage more reading. The more children read, the better they will read.

Early readers can build their confidence and abilities by rereading books they are very familiar with. Repetition is good!

Reading and talking about nonfiction — not just storybooks — helps younger children learn information and skills that they need for academic success in upper grades.

How to help:

  1. Read and reread your child’s favorite books — electronic or print — and, eventually, she will be able to read them to you.
  2. Listen to your child read and tell you stories. Then, have a conversation about them.
  3. Play board games and card games and talk about what’s happening as you play.
  4. Limit and monitor your child’s computer and television time. During screen time, help choose programs that will both interest her and build knowledge. Ask what she has learned, and find books on these subjects at the local library.
  5. Expose your child to new things and information by taking her to a museum, the zoo, or a different neighborhood. Encourage her to talk about what she sees.


  • At 5 years, can say 3000–5000 words, speaks using complex and compound sentences, and starts to match letters with sounds.
  • At 6 years, starts to read words on the page and make predictions while reading, using knowledge, pictures, and text.
  • At 7 years, starts to read words automatically, and expands knowledge by listening to and reading books

The words we use in conversation are different from the words we see in books. Students need to understand this academic language in order to succeed in school.

Starting in grade 4, children are expected to “read to learn” — to gain information from books independently.

Children need encouragement, praise, and patience, especially when they are struggling in school.

How to help:

  1. Hang maps or other word-filled posters. Hang her schoolwork to show how proud you are and emphasize the importance of working hard at school.
  2. Challenge your child by reading aloud books or stories from the newspaper — electronic or print — that she cannot read on her own and by introducing her to new ideas and topics.
  3. Keep what your child enjoys reading around the house. Many children enjoy kid-friendly magazines that you can find at your library or order by mail.
  4. Talk to your child’s teacher. Learn about classroom work and how you can help at home.


  1. At 8 years, reads chapter books and is now learning an estimated 3,000 words per year
  2. At 9 years, can read aloud and silently, and understand what is read
  3. At 10 years, begins to identify the themes in a text

The Nerve

For years I prayed for all the things I have now… a degree, a home, a husband, friends, children, a career, a car….now the question is, what do I do with all these things?!

A mother of three, wife, student, and full-time teacher… sounds a bit complicated right? Well, to think, I even have the nerve to be young and black!

I wanted a space of my own and a place for my personal growth.  I decided today would be the day I set my mark.  Today would be the day I scratch another goal off my bucket list; creating a blog community for young women and men of all hues to read, laugh, and get through.


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