SIMPLE IS SMARTER.
Beginning In October, my daughter had her 8th birthday. She loves seafood, macaroons, and her Goddie (God-mother), so we decided that her Goddie would come to town (two hours away) and we would take her out for seafood and macaroons. My daughter frowned and looked somber the whole entire time. I was so embarrassed at how ungrateful she became because they did not have raw oysters (yeah I know what you are thinking). Now, Christmas has past…and not ONE of the toys that was bought, was thought of a week after Christmas but a few! She’s begging for more toys and doesn’t take care of the ones she has and doesn’t clean her room. Granted she’s on the A/B honor roll, her concept of being entitled has got to stop. So I have to begin with myself and then her.
WHY MINIMALISM IS BETTER.
As a child, I didn’t have tons of toys but I did not want for things to play with. I learned the magic of venturing out doors and a love for my imagination with my cousins, my daughter, on the other hand, is entertained at the thought of watching children play with toys on YouTube; annoying right?! She has the type of closet that you often open at your own risk. I thought “she is just messy” but in actuality my closet looks the exact same way today and I need to teach her how to clean her room properly and throw away things that she does not need any more and donate toys/clothes to others. “Convenience parenting” has apps and tablets for keeping children quiet or reminding them to clean up their rooms. I want to raise children who can retain information when told, who can complete tasks without being prompted, and who are grateful for what they do have.
As a teacher, I understand the logic and practices of what makes children thrive and as I continue to grow within my pedagogy, I realize that most children need minimalism. Minimalism is not always cleaning up or giving away your things as charitable donations. Minimalism is about focusing your family on what is important in life.
In pursuit to minimalize our life, I am focusing on these key concepts:
- Choosing Gratitude: cutting down on holiday gifts (tangible gifts). Birthdays should be about celebrating life. Valentines day should be about love. Give the gift of experience.
- Choosing Family: making family dinner a priority 1-2 times a week for improved psychological well-being. spending time with the children unplugged from social media. learn a new craft/hobby. READ.
- Choosing Health: choosing healthier meals. cutting back on empty snacks. COOK TOGETHER.
- Choosing Outdoors: trading screen time for outdoor play. learning to respect the environment.
- Being a Conscious Consumer: thinking before I buy. Allowing three days to pass by before I make big purchases to make sure that the item is something I really want. Only buying toys the children earn and do chores for. TEACH CHILDREN YOU DONT NEED TO BUY THINGS TO BE HAPPY.