Looking back, I remember the days of dating and courting each other, lunches just because, dates regularly. Bonding was such an important aspect of the reason we became so close so soon. Immediately, we felt as if the loads of our day could be unloaded unto each other. Two daughters later, our courtship is mostly conversation about administrating our marriage and the kids. As much as I need “me time” away from the girls, I also need “adult time” with my spouse. No phones, no children, just direct conversation about things that do not pertain to our responsibilities. Finding new ways to provide the support for a strong foundation by rediscovering my love for my partner everyday.
The goal of having meaningful conversation is to talk about things that keep you current and deepen your understanding of who your spouse is. What are his or her likes, dislikes, preferences, feelings, stressors, friends and life dreams?
Drop your phones for 10 minutes and:
-put the kids to bed early
-remember to listen like it was your first date and never stop dating one another
-play adult games
-Turn off the TV during dinner time
-Take a walk together and try conversation starters (link below)