The Nerve

For years I prayed for all the things I have now… a degree, a home, a husband, friends, children, a career, a car….now the question is, what do I do with all these things?!

A mother of three, wife, student, and full-time teacher… sounds a bit complicated right? Well, to think, I even have the nerve to be young and black!

I wanted a space of my own and a place for my personal growth.  I decided today would be the day I set my mark.  Today would be the day I scratch another goal off my bucket list; creating a blog community for young women and men of all hues to read, laugh, and get through.


“A House Divided Within Itself, Cannot Stand” – A. Lincoln 

They chanted ‘we will not be replaced.’ 

Replaced as … what? I’ll tell you. Replaced as the only voice in public discussions. Replaced as the law makers, replaced as the only bodies in the public and political arenas. Replaced as the only lives that matter or counted as humans.

“Make America great again!”

….well, what part of America’s history did Trump have in mind?

My only concern is that those same men and women (and don’t get it twisted, we know that they have partners who packed their lunch for this rally, so YES [WOMEN] ) get to go back to their jobs as police officers, teachers, bank officers, loan specialists , lawyers, judges, administrators, senators, CEO’s, executives, and presidents.  

Let’s be honest, there is no negative without positive, but being silent about the issue at Virginia University, whether of color or white, is allowing this type of negative thinking to thrive. 

There is no “Make America Great Again”. America was built on the backs of others; stollen and bartered as “The New World”. America is a corporation.  We don’t want to replace you, we want what is rightfully OURS! Life, equality, and the pursuit of happiness.

We repeat part of a National Anthem, that in it’s entirety, was never meant for us.

 “Their blood has wash’d out their foul footstep’s pollution.  No refuge could save the hireling and slave from the terror of flight or the gloom of the grave…”

We send our sons and daughters to a national athletic league that exploits their talent. “The untypical exhibitionism of these athletes also violates the basic standards of good manners and sportsmanship, which are so highly valued in the United States.” …they proclaimed in 1968 as we only raised our fist.

From David Duke’s statement to Trump’s utterance of tasteless ignorance; white supremacy is wrong and needs to be proclaimed as so.  Our nation will always be diverse and we must learn to celebrate each other.  How dare we pretend bigotry does not exist on our own land but fight a war with nations over their own country for economic gains.  

“Don’t tell me about progress the black man has made. You don’t stick a knife 10 inches in my back, pull it out three or four, then tell me I’m making progress.’ ” – Jackie Robinson

America is that burning building Martin Luther King spoke of.  We try to shove our dark history under a rug and throw rocks just to hide our hands. No longer will we be able to pretend that racism is not real or that our country has the best interests of its people.

Many of us believe wholeheartedly in the undeniable truth that people of all races and ethnic backgrounds are, and deserve to be treated as, equal. Let’s continue to teach love and equality to children.  Let’s encourage our children to be leaders that promote the growth and diversity of all.  

Over 300 years of servitude and we are still demanding equality!    

Stony the road we trod.  Bitter the chast’ning rod, felt in the days when hope unborn had died; yet with a steady beat / Have not our weary feet, come to the place for which our fathers sighed?

….Will we ever get to the promised land as “ONE”?


Daggum Lasagna 

My household is divided when it comes to eating. My husband is a picky eater and me and the girls eat every thing and vegetable, you name it! Being so busy takes the fun out of cooking but often I try to prepare a dish that he will actually eat. Today he asked for lasagna…. I decided to make love by making it from scratch.  It’s the little things that I do for my partner that bring me joy. 

Here’s my recipe!

In a skillet, combine 2 pounds ground beef,  garlic salt (or 2 cloves minced garlic), and pepper .

Cook until brown and drain.  Leave a little juice (just a smudge won’t hurt lol)

Return the meat back to the skillet and add a can of whole Italian tomatoes (dice them smaller if you don’t like big tomatoes)

2 tablespoons of dried parsley flakes, 2 tablespoons dried basil…

Simmer for about 20 minutes.

Line up your first set of oven baked noodles into your baking dish (you can use the ones you have to cook as well)

While the meat is cooking, mix 3 cups lowfat cottage cheese in a bowl with 2 beaten eggs. Add a 1/2 cup of Parmesan cheese into the mix.

2 tablespoons dried parsley flakes and a teaspoon of garlic salt.  Mix together well.

Now, go ahead and build your assembly line: meat mixture, shredded mozzarella cheese, cottage cheese mixture, and  lasagna noodles.

Cottage cheese mixture spread over noodles evenly, next shredded mozzarella spread evenly; last layer, spread meat mixture evenly.


Top with Italian shredded cheese, pepperoni slices, black olives, spinach, and more Italian shredded cheese.

Let back for 30 to 35 minutes on 375-400 degrees.


Thirty & Thriving

“You can’t have my joy”

….I never saw my “30” coming!  Most know or have an ideal of what they want to have accomplished by 30.  The truth is, I’ve never lived for or envisioned my 30’s.  I’m a “live for the moment” type of gal.  I knew exactly what I wanted by age 25….but I never put a time frame on my expectations. 

 I learned in college to trust timing; I was a single mom, struggling to graduate from college but I did.  Once I met my husband…I realized that life happens with such intricate detail…things I had no control over were happening all the time; molding my “now” and the unforeseen, but altogether working in my favor. “No’s”, losing jobs, relocating, losing my car, having  to sleep on a bunk bed or couch, unrequited love, and depression were all apart of the bigger picture.

Life may not be picture perfect but it doesn’t have to be in order to reap the rewards that come from overcoming adversity, facing change with an open heart, and letting go of empty expectations.

Meaning and purpose are not born in the highs and lows; it’s sparked in all the moments in between when we pause, reflect, and extractthe lessons learned. True meaning is made when we put those lessons into action and honor their purpose in defining us as beautiful everyday warrior women!

“30” became a magical number for me, shedding a woman that I never wanted to be and seeing a woman I never knew I would become. 

This year on my 30th birthday I’ve chosen a celebration of abundance, gratitude, and of self-worth. 
Here is to knowing “Faith without works or practice is dead”

Student and Learning Affirmations

Affirmations & Developing a Growth Mindset in the High School Classroom!

The Affirmation Spot

Today’s Thought:

“I am not a teacher, but an awakener.”
~ Robert Frost

In our modern, fast-changing world, learning is no longer confined to a period of years that we call “formal education”. The world where that was possible is long gone. We don’t learn information once and it lasts us for our entire lives or careers. In fact, learning is a life-long endeavor that lasts far beyond the classroom.

Most careers require continuing education and re-education as fields change, expand, and cease to exist. Some fields change so rapidly that the information by a college freshman is out-of-date by the time that student reaches his or her junior year. This is what it means to live in the information age. We are in a constant dance with information through its conduit learning.

In fact, the most successful and happiest people are those who become students of life. They understand…

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The Man Behind The Curtain

Do you really know your husband/partner? Trust is a key in a healthy marriage but it is important not to put all of your trust in man (humans).


He smiles when it rains love

Glows when the moon sets

Roars like the king of the jungle when I’m hurt

Keeps me in the comfort of his arms….

I see a man sitting in the dead of the night, staring hard…

Do I really know the man behind the curtain?

Have you ever really sat down to think about your partner, who he really is, what goes on in that tiny mind of his. What does he do when you aren’t looking? Is he really generally stable?

Good question…

Several of us have said I trust my partner, we communicate very well…that is very good, trust is one of the building blocks of a good relationship and communication is essential be it courtship or marriage, but have an open mind, we are all human; in the process of doing both and giving space know that the devil exist in…

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